I warn you there will be spoilers in this article. If you still have not seen Buffy the Vampire Slayer in its entirety by now. Have a serious word with yourself and get on Netflix.
For those who do not know who Xander Harris is here is a quick summery.
“Alexander Lavelle “Xander” Harris is a fictional character created for the action-horror/fantasy television series Buffy the Vampire Slayer (1997–2003). He was developed by Joss Whedon and portrayed throughout the television series by Nicholas Brendon and in two episodes by his twin brother, Kelly Donovan. He was conceived as an everyman and a male character for series heroine Buffy Summers to interact with, and to provide comic relief in the series. Xander is one of several friends of Buffy who assist her in saving the world against numerous supernatural events that plague Sunnydale, California, a town built over a doorway to hell.”
I suppose this picture sums it up brilliantly, Xander has no super strength. No super powers but what he has is heart. He might be afraid but he will always step in to try to protect his friends.This usually means that he ends up hurt and the worst of in a fight.
Xander falls in love with Buffy early on and is protective over her and Willow
He also brings a lot of the humour to Buffy. Something that is well needed after some of the dark things that the gang get involved in.
He even can point fun at himself were others may no.
I suppose what I have learned from Xander is that anyone can be a good person and a god friend. It takes courage however and it’s not always easy. That sometimes you can’t take on your own demons yourself and you need to be able to accept help from others. Also humor is a great defense for you and your friends but you must balance that out with being able to talk without jokes and importantly listen.